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Life today is confusing for many boys and men.

Public sympathy is directed primarily toward the needs and problems of girls and women, while those of boys and men are neglected and receive little attention. The prevailing discourse about boys and men tends to be critical and accusatory, with a focus on harmful behaviors that do not characterize most of them.

In relationships, many boys and men experience confusion, shame, and guilt, and prefer to withdraw into themselves, avoid, or disconnect, rather than bring themselves to the table with what they think or have to say.

This blog offers a variety of perspectives and directions for reflection on masculinity and the dilemmas facing boys and men today, always guided by the question: What does it mean to be a good man, and what kind of masculinity is fulfilling for men and those around them?

Hosting David Maywald, author of "The Relentless War on Masculinity: Does It Ever End"?

In this podcast, I speak with David Maywald from Australia about his 2025 book, The Relentless War on Masculinity: Does It Ever End?
We discuss the book’s straightforward title and contemporary feminism’s exclusive focus on equality for women; the dominance of divisive and accusatory strands of feminism in the media, academic research, and public policy; the promotion of girls and women while ignoring the struggles of boys and men; moral self-righteousness and double standards in addressing the needs of women and men; and ways to address this imbalance.
Self-Esteem and Being Vulnerable as a Man

I recently listened to a thoughtful, honest, and straightforward conversation on the Huberman Lab podcast, where Andrew Huberman hosted Terry Real—a renowned psychotherapist, bestselling author, and one of the leading voices on men's emotional lives and relationships.
Their conversation revolved around a central question: What is healthy masculinity, and how do men actually build it?
Why Are There So Few Good Kings?

Why do societies so often elevate men who seek power, yet so rarely produce leaders truly worthy of it?
When we think about healthy versus problematic masculinity—whether in individual men or across entire societies—political leadership quickly comes into focus. Again and again, one absence stands out: the Good King.
The Value of Close Relationships

This short TED Talk (11 minutes) presents the story of one of the most important longitudinal studies ever conducted on human wellbeing: The Harvard Study of Adult Development.
What makes this study unique is its duration. It tracks lives across decades—from adolescence into old age—asking one of the most fundamental human questions: What makes us happy?
Beyond the Manosphere

Louis Theroux is an insightful documentary filmmaker known for exploring unusual and provocative human phenomena around the world. His latest documentary, released on Netflix in March 2026, focuses on the manosphere.
Violence as a Shortcut to Masculine Status

"Goodbye, girls..."
The older boys laugh as they walk away. The younger boys stand frozen. They were never a threat. They had done nothing to provoke a fight. Yet they have just been publicly humiliated, intimidated, and reminded of their place in the masculine hierarchy.
The final insult is revealing. The older boys don't call them weak. They don't call them stupid. They call them girls.
Dad, I Am Watching You

One of the greatest influences fathers have on their children rarely comes through lectures or advice. It comes through everyday life.
Long before children fully understand what we tell them, they carefully observe how we live. They watch how we treat their mother, how we respond when frustrated, whether we keep our promises, how we speak to strangers, how we recover after making mistakes, and whether we genuinely enjoy spending time with them. Whether fathers realize it or not, they are constantly teaching—even when they say nothing.